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A short explanation to why my site is called “Oh Positive Mum”.
Two things I discovered when I became a mother. One was during pregrency and the zillon blood tests and what not. I found out my blood type. I’m sure you can figure which type I am.
The other was when my eldest daughter was coming up to a month old and when my husband was changing her nappy she vomited over the side of the top of the changing table into the drawers below and at the very same time shot out liquid poo out and covered her cot. The word “OH!” followed by something else like “sugar”; since seems to have stuck. In other words if someone was to count the amount of times, my husband or myself has spoken the words “oh!” as a beginning of a sentence, counts more than any other word.
Many of you probably visit my blog and wonder why I am eBay crazy. Why I’m sell, sell, sell.
Well the reason is that I don’t like wasting and the thought of just dumping everything into landfill makes me cringe.
Everything I list up on eBay are items that have so much use left in them and will be loved by another. Before they end up being tossed.
In fact, the chances are that after the next person has used them and out grows their need. They might even end up back on eBay for someone else.
Lots are brand new and are unwanted gifts. Shameful to say but apparently I’m really hard to buy for so family and friends just seem to buy me any old thing that they like and hope that I do too.
Just shows that not many know what I like or who I am.
The most part of what I list is children’s clothing. I have two daughters and they are growing up so fast. Each of them seem to have more clothes then my husband and myself combined. So laundry is one household chore that has now turned into a military operation.
It seems that whatever I do. I seem to be chasing my tail.
Laundry is continuous, I’m constantly making food and then clearing up. I never seem to stop. Dishes to be done and then put the away. Tidying up the toys after the kids play. So when do I get a chance to sit down and drink a hot cup of coffee? I don’t!
I’ve become accustomed to drinking my coffee cold and tea and pretty much everything else including food you name it.
So when I go to a friend’s house and they make me coffee I tend to take some time to drink it because they serve it hot and expect me to drink it straight away. I can’t seem to do that any more. I have to wait for it to cool down or I have plenty of milk.
I thought when my youngest started school I would have more time to clean up.
I’ve had so many setbacks since my last post. Not with clearing up my house by blogging it.
I have however starting using the hashtag #clearingupmyhome on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook etc.
Now I just have to find a way to include that into this site and I’ll be laughing.
Every week I’m faced with mountains of clothes that I have had to wash dry and then sorted ready to put away.
My eldest daughter is meant to put her own away and same goes for my husband.
That leaves my youngest and mine to do.
Unfortunately this never goes to plan.
On the 22nd February 2016 will mark the two years that I have been on this downsize, declutter and new way of approach to things and stuff.
I look around my house and see so much still here and how I haven’t made any progress.
Then something happens like my eldest daughter gets ill. TMI – but she vomited all over her bed and floor at one in the morning. By 5am we were in the living room and while she tries to get some shut eye between each eruption. It dawned on me that, apart from her covers and pillow plus one loved toy, that is always in her bed. Nothing else got attacked by stomach contents.
This is the first time where one of the girls are ill and I didn’t have to get the black bag out. The floor was clear. Her bed didn’t have a weeks worth of clothes hidden in between the layers sheets. Toys stuffed into every corner and some. Not to mention books under the pillows. Pillows and more pillows. Followed by Disney fleece throws.
Drives me crazy!
Made it to my target this week. I set myself a goal of listing seven items onto eBay this week. It is now Thursday evening and I am really tired but nine new items have been listed today.
I didn’t manage to make a start last week because my daughter broke her foot and so many other set backs just took over. That is why I put in the extra effort today and got more than my seven up.
I know I’m not going to be able to reach my target of seven newly listed items each week but as far as I’m concerned. This is a good number. One a day.Anything more is a bonus and not an excuse not to put the effort in next week.
Last week I posted a dress at the local post office that I had sold on eBay. Great stuff something has left the building!
That alone made me super happy. Then the person that served me at the post office ended up charging me less than what I put on eBay for postage.
I didn’t do this on purpose, the next day I posted an item of the same weight and size and they charged for the larger size. So yes I was right to put that on in case that I would have been charged.
So I didn’t think it was right I kept the extra postage so I did a refund of the extra money paid to me for postage.
Today I had a lovely message back from the person which made my day!
While I was busy, cleaning the kitchen. Tiding up after the children. Making countless meals for everyone. I heard drilling and other things moving up stairs. Such as heavy metal music, being played so loud I think the area could hear it.
I wasn’t about to investigate as I husband didn’t seem to be in the best of moods and he was using power tools.
So after grabbing the third lot of washing off the line, I went up asking if he wanted a coffee.
The landing was full of boxes, from the room of doom and he was behind the door. I popped my head around and “Wow! Shelves.”
I now have to organise them all as he has just dumped all the boxes onto them. So you can’t really say it is an improvement but never the less. I can now sort things off the floor.
It’s nearly a year since we have lived in this house. And I still feel like I’m losing the battle with the room of doom. I do however now have a desk in there and have more access to many things that I am (too) slowly listing onto eBay.
Doesn’t look great does it. It is a box hell. Full of items and with that saying “If you haven’t used it in a year, get rid!”
It is starting to make it very clear that everything in this room needs to be got rid of. Well maybe not everything. At the beginning of this month I finally found my long lost hair straighteners. Been searching for them for ages. I knew I had seen them in this house and we definitely didn’t leave anything behind. So where the heck could they be?
Wow time has flown. Summer holidays with the girls were eventful. My husband surprised me with a over-night trip to London for my birthday. Fluffy (eldest daughter) started swimming lessons and I’m so proud to say she has taken to it like a fish. Bubbles (youngest daughter) has adapted to nursery and no more tears over leaving me.
Potty training was started at the beginning of the summer holidays and some days Bubbles had it done like a pro and other days, well she just went through knickers and clothes and I think my floor has been the cleanest it has ever been. Poor floor has been mopped so much that I’m glad that it was warm to dry it quickly enough, between mopping. Bless her that she still isn’t there yet but at least progress has been made.
I’ve started listing on eBay again. Updated two items that weren’t selling and hopefully now they will go. I’ve set myself a target of listing five items a week. This depends on if enough items sell because I could end up with what appears to be a shop of items.
As much as I have in my house to sell. I still don’t think of it as a shop. Although maybe putting up a table at the front of mine and trying to get passer-bys to purchase the unwanted items may be the next step.
Monday – procrastinating wasn’t the word. Ended up spending nearly a whole day at Romany’s (Pudding and boo) and we were discussing the surprise gift that my husband had bought for me. Later on in the day, it came. A A5 filofax in bright pink. When I say bright, I mean Filofax A5 Size The Original Fluorescent Pink Leather Personal Organiser. His idea is so I don’t lose it. Where does he think I’m going to take it?
Tuesday – In the evening my mother took the girls out to the park.
This week has been a challenge to get through.
Monday – I turned into 1950’s mother. House spotless upstairs and down. Children and husband fed a good healthy dinner and all was well. Then after the girls had gone to bed I did a spot of decorating in the living room.
Tuesday – house was so clean I got to spend some time learning new skills and starting to update my CV. Yes I hope to go back to work soon but doing what will depend on what jobs are available when I can start. As far as I see it at the moment it will be after Easter 2016 or even as late as September. Basically when Bubbles (youngest daughter) goes to school.
A friend, Carrie, needed money towards her holiday and as a joke I said I’d pay her to come and clean my house. Well after a while it seemed to make sense.
Trying to deep clean, decorate and have little helpers all in one day is quite a task.
Try this, if someone (parents, partner, children) is shouting at you.
Whisper back to them. “I’ll talk to you when you are calm.”
Of course they’ll shout some more and say that they can’t hear you.
Just whisper the same again. Repeat until they stopped shouting and say calmly, now at a normal talking level, “I was saying I’ll talk to you when you’re calm. If you are ready to talk than say what you need to. But you do not need to shout to get the message across. I will probably listen more if you aren’t shouting and screaming at me.”
Works best first time as it shocks the person out of their rage. But also gives you a chance to deal with their anger and not retaliate with more angry words.
The more practice you have with it, the less likely that you will say something you regret later on.
Let me know how it goes.
I’ve had this unit in my bathroom at my old house and there it was the perfect size for our needs but now we have moved it just doesn’t seem to work.
It works, just doesn’t fit into our new bathroom. It blocks out the light from the window and just looks like an eyesore in the corner of the room. So much so that I ended up taking it out and I’ve left it on the landing for a while and has been driving me nuts. To make matters worse, it was at the doorway of the room of doom.
There is the problem. That room again. It is meant to be a study or spare room where friends and family can stay but at the moment it is a dump site.
Out of my desperation I asked a friend yesterday while collecting my child from school if she knew anyone that might want it. To my amazement she said that she wanted it. Well, why wait I got my recovering from illness, husband to load it into his car. Which it only just fit into. To drive it over and gone! Just like that no more tall, looming unit on my landing. Just need to get rid of that play doll’s house now and the landing is clear.
So I sell items on eBay right? I also get a lot of deliveries from various companies. Be it nappies or other household essentials that I buy in bulk to save money in the long run.
All come in good sized cardboard boxes. Which have been stored ready to send other items in. Problem is due to many set backs. The boxes have out grown the items.
My room of doom became a cardboard city. I couldn’t get in there to get the stuff out to sell.
When you try to do your best for your children by teaching them to be polite, right and wrong and just giving them the best. You find so much advice from every where.
Be it as a post that has been shared on facebook, or forums full of parenting advice. Not to mention, family and friends telling you that you should or shouldn’t do for the best.
This is or has become a sore subject between my mother and I, over how I am with my daughters.