chicken soup for the soul

Paying it forward is Chicken soup for the soul

Louise Advice, Guest posts

Hit with bad vibes

Everywhere we look, and everywhere we turn, it seems that all we hear are all the negatives in life, or of those that do bad. What if things were flipped? And all we heard were good things and good news. I wonder if our thought processes and wellbeing would be programmed, or conditioned to be a bit more positive?

I’m not trying to say that all of us are negative and are not happy, but without yourselves realising it, these negative impacts hit us all subconsciously.

Earworms

Ever heard of Derren Brown? He has done many social experiments that prove that our external environment, does have a massive impact on our subconscious minds. If you get a chance, please watch one of his shows proving this; it’s very eye-opening!

The link I have provided is just one of many clever things he does, and it’s how the media, adverts etc. work, and we don’t even realise it. Please be patient while watching, I promise you it’s worth it to know how it all works.

Helping ourselves

I am not saying that being positive will be the cure for everything bad, as unfortunately, that will never happen! But if it can make yourself and others around you feel a bit more positive and happier, then I don’t see the harm.

In life, we have to help ourselves, and happiness differs from person to person, so why don’t we take it upon ourselves to do that?! After all, we are in charge of our happiness, right?

Seeking help.

Everyone has their own story, and of course, some are in the darkest of places and feel as if there is no way out. I am not implying that miracles can be made, or to magic everything away by just being kind. That is not what I am trying to achieve at all. I am aware things sometimes run deeper and are in need of professional help. If you or anyone else you know is affected, Please See at the end of the blog for free U.K helplines. (If you are reading outside of the U.K then there are helplines and support networks out there; depending on where you live.) Please don’t be ashamed to speak out. It’s ok not to be ok!

What if we can change our behaviours slightly so that those positive things will have a knock-on effect on our own lives?.

Paying it forward

The smallest little gestures, the most insignificant words, or something as simple as a smile towards somebody, can mean the world to that person.

Doing good to others helps them, but it can help you too!

Most of you have probably heard of paying it forward; I call it chicken soup for the soul.

I would often always turn to chicken soup when feeling poorly, and to me, it usually brings comfort, warmth and nutrition; being kind exactly does those same things but to the soul.

By recognising random acts of kindness and doing kind to others, can set off a positive chain reaction of generosity and thoughtfulness. It doesn’t have to be huge, it could be popping in to see a lonely neighbour for a cup of tea; giving an old coat to a homeless person, or something as simple as complimenting someone you know on how lovely they look.

Many of you will do this on a daily basis naturally, but won’t acknowledge how in fact you are helping others. It’s time to sit back and reflect on what you do, because realising these things will bring those positive vibes to the forefront of your mind, and re-setting negative influences you will be picking up from the world around you.

Restoring faith in humanity

I would like to share a video that I stumbled upon on YouTube. You will see how a simple kind gesture can start one big positive chain reaction!

I hope it touches you in the way it did with me.

If you give a little love, you can get a little love of your own.

🌈It’s ok not to be ok! For further support and advice, please see the helplines below.

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These free helplines are there to help when you’re feeling down or desperate.

Unless it says otherwise, they’re open 24 hours a day, every day.

Samaritans – for everyone Call 116 123 Email jo@samaritans.org

Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) – for men Call 0800 58 58 58 – 5 pm to midnight every day

Visit the webchat page

Papyrus – for people under 35 Call 0800 068 41 41 – Monday to Friday 10 am to 10 pm, weekends 2 pm to 10 pm, bank holidays 2 pm to 5 pm Text 07786 209697Email pat@papyrus-uk.org

Childline – for children and young people under 19 Call 0800 1111 – the number won’t show up on your phone bill

The Silver Line – for older people Call 0800 4 70 80 90

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